But being accompanied by just one child - for the first time ever since she was a tiny baby made me realise that we both (perhaps unfairly) expected more of her when she was by herself than we would have done if she had been accompanied by her merry troupe. Whilst at the same time, I found myself ‘caring’ for her more over the two days that we spent away than I usually do when she takes up her role as eldest of her clan. So paradoxically, having only one child around made me into a MORE attentive but also LESS sensitive parent…
Gina Ford or Philip Larkin - what is your parenting style?
This is something I’ve been asking myself recently. Pondering what it might be, whether I actually have one and whether it even matters in the grand scheme of things?
I’ve been asking myself because the family dynamic has shifted. A new paradigm has crept up on us and all of a sudden the kids are no longer toddlers who need me to do everything for them. So I’m wondering what my new role looks like.
With my youngest now 6, and my eldest soon to reach 2-digit figures (yikes), it’s become (a little) less about enforcing guidelines around nutrition, hygiene and bedtimes and more about strengthening their values, consciousness and perspective.
In short, I too am being asked to grow up.